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Reclamation 🐦🔥 Part 1 is Available
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Hey Reader, Last week I sent you a message on Day 2 of the Rest + Reclamation Retreat that was pre-written and scheduled for you to receive at our regularly scheduled day and time. I’m already dreaming of going back as it exceeded every expectation I had. I’ll be honest, I had only really thought about my own rest going in. I knew I’d be with Black women. What I didn’t anticipate was how our host, and the four facilitators would truly be one circle of 20. The days had an ebb and flow: wake and nourish as we wish, circle up in the morning, come back together for dinner, and everything in between was up to us. Group offerings if we wanted them, one-on-one time with a therapist and a restorative yoga instructor if we didn’t or just flow with our own rest needs. In the final circle, someone said this experience was “motherf*cking life-changing,” and I felt that in my bones. What I’m carrying home is reclamation. Stillness. My spiritual gifts and my soul work, and clarity about where I can really have an impact. And I’m no longer fighting or playing a game that no one wins. That might be the biggest transformation of all. Which feeds right into what I did Wednesday. I went live and started a new 5-part series, How to Stop Your Co-Parent from Ruining Your Day, under my Parenting Across Two Homes playlist on YouTube. You can subscribe here! Part one is a story I’ve never told before. It’s an act of healing, and I’m unlearning silence while I tell it. I’m vulnerable, raw, a little nervous having it out in the world while also being really proud of myself. I am proud of how I showed up in integrity with my values, and of this new framing around loving accountability: the questions we ask ourselves before conversations or storytelling that involve other people, being mindful of impact, and knowing we don’t need permission to speak our truth. If you’re interested, you can watch ⤵️ I’d deeply appreciate you witnessing, even if you don’t relate to the topic. It’s my hope that the radical honesty I model inspires you to also be honest with yourself. I am curious: 🪄 How can you reclaim your agency to speak your truth? Hit reply and share your reflections. I read and reply to each one. May you no longer wait for permission to speak your truth! In Lovelution… p.s. Know a parent navigating two homes who needs to hear this? Send them Part 1: It Doesn’t Always Get Better - A Story of Caution ⚠️ Part 2: Three Keys to Intentional Parenting is scheduled for Wednesday, October 21 at 12 pm PT. You will be notified when I go LIVE by clicking here! rooted in love. blooming in liberation. 🌻 |
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I am a Human Systems Strategist: I diagnose the pattern and co-create alignment, whether that's one person or a whole culture. Justice & Joy in your inbox every Friday! 📥
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